Have you heard the saying, get comfortable being uncomfortable? We hear this all the time, and while I understand its intended meaning that we should continue to pursue challenges for our growth, I often ponder whether, sometimes as humans, we get too comfortable in discomfort, that we don’t make a change. Whether it be in our jobs, relationships, financial situations, friendships, places or environments.
Often, I think our problem is that we aren’t afraid of experiencing discomfort, but instead, assimilating the “uncomfortable” as our norm. We stay in relationships that aren’t fulfilling us, we stay in jobs that we don’t like, we deal with money being tight or mediocre friendships, because that’s just life, right?
But what if it doesn’t have to be? What if there was another way? What if, actually, when a situation was uncomfortable, it meant that we moved? We moved forward with gusto and determination that only true urgency can bring us?
We tell ourselves that we have time
It’s okay, I’ll deal with it next week, next month, next year? How often have you told yourself these words? I know I have. We don’t move like the house is on fire, but it is! None of us truly knows how long we are here for. We tell ourselves the lie that “we have time,” but do we ever really know that? We may hope and pray that we have long, healthy lives, but none of us truly knows.
We don’t move with urgency, we don’t move with haste until something “goes wrong”, but what if it didn’t need to go wrong, but instead, it just no longer felt right?
What if we moved not because we had to, but instead because we wanted to? Because we deserve to?
Do we believe we are worthy?
Now we get to the crux of it all. Do we believe that we’re capable of creating the life we desire? And if we do believe we’re capable, do we believe we deserve it? Where does the belief come from that we can’t or shouldn’t have it all, and why?
As if somehow it’s something to feel guilty for, having it all? Nobody benefits from us not living the life we desire. We aren’t truly fulfilled, and then that radiates outward. We may tell ourselves that it’s “greedy” to want more, that we are “happy” with what we have, and that we have “enough”.
However, there is a difference between gratitude and complacency.
You can be grateful and still desire more, you can be grateful and still move forward, you can be grateful and still be ambitious, driven, and unapologetic in your movement. Because while we often ask ourselves what the cost of going for it is, we often don’t ask ourselves, what is the cost of standing still?
If we were to move forward with speed, move like the house is on fire, what would change?
Is OKAY really OKAY?
Are your immediate needs being cared for really enough? Where are you settling for less than you desire, and why? Have you become too comfortable in your own discomfort? Where in your life have you told yourself everything is fine? Because fine is never fine.
Fine is settling. Fine is compromise. Fine is indifference. Fine is MEH.
Do you want your life to be meh? or do you desire something more? And if you do desire something greater, is there any part of you that feels guilty for wanting what you want?
Where does the guilt come from? What do you feel guilty about? Or is it the fear that’s stopping you? The fear of who you will be, who you will become when you radiate and embody total fulfillment.
What makes you think it’s a bad thing? Is it because you know that many other people don’t feel that way? Does it make you feel guilty?
What if you could view it differently?
You may have heard the saying “A rising tide lifts all ships” and when you radiate fulfillment, you inspire others to reach for and feel the same.
The people who want to go after the life they desire can then see it’s possible for them too, because remember, you can’t be what you can’t see.
So, to bring it back, is our problem really that we’re scared of being uncomfortable, or is it, in fact, that we are too comfortable in our discomfort that we call it “normal”? What if we can have it all, without any guilt, remorse, or apology? What if ‘having it all’ actually helps others rather than hinders them? You aren’t ‘rubbing it in’, being ‘unfair’ or‘gloating’, and it’s here we need to self-reflect and understand that that is our current thought of people who ‘have it all’, not theirs.
We project our thoughts out into the world. Because it’s what we’re scared of other people thinking that we’re usually thinking about ourselves.
Remember!
Fine is not fine.
Discomfort is your sign to move forward.
Time isn’t given.
Move like the house is on fire, because it is!
You deserve to have it all.
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